More on Growing with Grace

Dyana ValentineI had a number of responses to last week’s post, so I added to it. The original question was:

Dear Dyva:

As a self-employed service provider (how gloriously vague is that? I could be a hooker! Who can say?), how can you gracefully sail through awkward growth spurts? I’ve reached a point where the number of people who’re interested in hiring me vastly outweighs the number of hours I’m willing to sit at a computer screen. I know my business needs to “grow” to meet swelling demands, but I’m not ready to become a boss, with minions and interns. And I’ve been told that cloning is painful and expensive.

What’s a growing gal to do?

(The first 3 tips — with glorious video — were posted last week…here are two more.)

Clean House: Look at your current roster of clients. Do they make your heart sing? Does their work inspire you? Do they share your values? Make a fearless inventory and cull the herd wherever there is a less-than response to any of the prompts. For real. Since you get to choose, and you do, design your client list like you would your ideal outfit, favorite room or your dream date.

Stand Tall: As you go through this growth spurt, don’t get all hunched over and worried what they’ll think. You know who they are. Be loud, proud and set your boundaries clearly. Be kind and clear, at all times. Do.Not.Waffle.

Grow with grace, girlie.

4 thoughts on “More on Growing with Grace

  1. Jill Hoffman

    My problem is that I haven’t figured out how to say “No” yet. Today, a contact from my past called me to offer me a new project with a client that’s out of my target industry. As much as I appreciated her thinking of me and I could tell she was really excited about trying to help me out, I don’t feel like the work would serve me well and I’m at a point where I don’t have to take whatever comes my way…still, I could not say “No”. What is a good approach to declining with grace?

    1. Dyana Valentine

      Jill: I totally get it. You actually scripted your response, “Thank you for thinking of me. I do my best work on projects within the (insert yours) industry. May I recommend (if you can recommend someone for her project, give a contact (fyi: I always make sure someone is available and interested prior to referring))” You may even want to follow up with a handwritten thank you card to the person for thinking of you and to celebrate your connection to them. Chew on it and let me know how it goes!

  2. Dyana Valentine

    so happy to be of service, Jill. I’d be happy to help you get clear, in any way I can. I know that for me, there’s been a shift in what I want to be and to whom. Not always an elegant process—but very useful and makes most things easier. Keep it a live process and either report in or email me as you go. Dy