Self Confidence Is A Muscle
by Ilise Benun
The last post on self confidence seemed to touch a nerve and I detected a common thread in most of the comments: that things are really tough out there right now and the problem isn’t a lack of self confidence but that the risks are just too great right now to use that self confidence to take action, propose creative ideas or stand up for what you need or believe in.
One commenter wrote: “The sad and ironic thing is the bad atmosphere continues to chip away at my confidence. I have to think of some way to build that back up by the time the economy recovers or I won’t be able to job-search effectively.”
Let’s help this person (and ourselves) by brainstorming ideas here for what to do to build that confidence back up.
The comment suggests that confidence is like a muscle that, when unused, can atrophy. How do you prevent that from happening? How do you sustain your drive in the face of all types of discouraging news and responses?
“Be in this world but not of it.” That’s the aphorism that comes to my mind. It suggests separating yourself from this “bad atmosphere” as much as possible, at least within your own mind.
Then, to keep that muscle strong, I suggest exercising your self confidence in other areas. Maybe freelancing on the side where you can have more freedom? What about your personal work that doesn’t get judged according to corporate interests and doesn’t carry the pressure of having to please anyone except yourself? Or even doing something that you would never have done in your local community, getting involved politically or with local charities that need all the help they can get now too. Those are perfect environments in which to build skills and talents.
What else? And would this help? Anyone already trying it?